Entwurf für Zine #2 – There is no purity in silence
Silence kills. Literally.
I know that if people would not close their eyes so much, someone could have helped me and every other tormented and raped child. To create a world were people don’t close their eyes so much, don’t go into denial so much, don’t ignore the blatant wrongs around them, but instead choose to listen, to see, to feel, to care, to empathise, to speak up for themselves and others, to DO what they know and feel is right – to create such a world, we need to talk about traumatic experiences AND ways to healing, among other things of course. I think talking about healing processes is at least as important as talking about traumas. Because for one thing, if you talk about healing, this includes talking about the trauma you heal from. On the other hand, just pointing out how bad the world is, or warning people that there are dangers everywhere, or skandalizingly exclaiming what horrendous atrocity happened in a „normal family/neighbourhood“ – like I often see in the mainstream media – this does not always help, often, it just creates fear, confusion, pity, overwhelming powerlessness or can even be voyouristic and/or cement rape myths.
So I think it is important to focus on the experiences of the person(s) involved and I think it is also important to show that there is hope and that there are ways to heal, to get better, to build a good life even after the worst traumatic experiences, provided someone is willing to be there for the recovering person. Of course it is also important to point out that traumatised people need understanding, caring relationships to heal and that it is a COMMUNITY responsibility to help create safety for children -and adults- and to help traumatised people on their healing journeys. Because this cannot be done alone, and it is a topic that everyone should feel responsible for. Traumatised people, our sufferings and our needs do not need to be shoved away out of the public and into the treatment rooms of therapists and other specialists! We and our realities need to be included into society and we need the whole of society to feel and act responsible. It takes a village to raise a child. And it also takes a village to heal from trauma. Especially in a world where nearly everyone is severely traumatised.
„There is no purity in silence“, as svenmarie, a very good friend of mine and fellow zinester who is also a survivor of rapes and violence, put it. I think no one should be pressured or talked into telling/publicising more than they want to, which is quite obvious. But I think that making the stories of trauma survivours public, talking about them, is very important.
So: This is an encouragement for all of you people out there to talk, write, draw, sing, act, dance or whatever you can think of, whatever you feel like! Express yourselves! See if you feel comfortable sharing what you express. Ask yourselves: How do I want to share? With whom, whith how many, with what kind of people? Try to express something related to your own trauma and/or recovery story. Even if what happened to you was “nothing”. Even if you should be one of the few people who were not traumatized themselves. I’m sure your life has been touched by trauma and/or violence in some way, maybe you see a friend struggle on her_his path of survival, maybe you avoid certain situations out of fear, and you will certainly have heard, read and seen a lot of information about events and things that are traumatising for the people who are exposed to them; the news are full of it. So how does all of this affect you? What is it like for YOU to live in a world full of violence, cruelty, exploitation, discrimination, lies, hypocrisy? How do you feel about mainstream media’s coverage of these issues? … These are of course only a few questions you might try to answer, but please don’t let me lead you away from what’s important to you and the ways you want/need to express yourself. I’d certainly like to hear from you! meeresbande at riseup punkt net