Meeresbande Zine #2, S. 23 We can like pink
We can be pink princess-girls if we want to!
…even if we are cis-girls…
We always thought that we must hate pink and barbies and all that too-girly stuff! It is stupid. It is made to make us girls silly, frilly, shallow, obsessed with beauty and fashion. But we, we must be more than that! We are proud girls, we know that we can do anything boys can do – and many of it better than them! We do not rely on „beauty“ or „fashion“ for our self-respect! We do not need men to tell us that we are nice and good looking if we wear pink dresses or the latest style of make-up and giggle and blush a lot. They only want us to be meek, obedient and self-enslaving. But we are no slaves to patriarchy or beauty norms or fashion! We are strong girls! So we must hate pink! We must wear old, unfashionable, but practical jeans and t-shirts! We must not care about fashion and looks!
At least that is what our „mother“ taught us. But she is wrong. We can like pink things without becoming slaves to patriarchy! We can care about what we look like without being silly, shallow followers of fashion-trends! We don’t have to be so „strong“ that we are impervious to socialization, advertising, criticism and mobbing – if these things get to us it is not our fault and we must not try to ignore it – we can find productive, creative, individual and collective ways to deal with it if we are honest with ourselves.
But you, „mother“, were never honest. You did not really want us to be strong, emancipated girls and women – secretly, you wanted us to be weaker and uglier than yourself! You thought you were ugly, unfeminine and unworthy and you were unfree and entangled in nasty webs of oppression and violence (even if you helped make them yourself!). You wanted us to be worse off than yourself so that you could rationalize your own life choices. But we are stronger than you are, much stronger. We do not believe your lies anymore and we are getting free from your webs! You don’t know what imagination, inner freedom, courage and deep feelings are and you have no passion for justice, happiness, freedom or joy. But we do! And we want these beautiful things for every living being! We are happier the more we see happiness around us,
only get insecure, bitter and jealous
because for you everything is a competition. You are a hypocrite!
But we know now that we can do everything we want, wear what we want, look the way we want! We don’t need to let that be dictated by sexist gender-roles and money-hungry fashion industries – not even in reverse by desperately trying to avoid doing what they tell us.