Meeresbande Zine #2, S. 24 We can like pink
But we know now that we can do everything we want, wear what we want, look the way we want! We don’t need to let that be dictated by sexist gender-roles and money-hungry fashion industries – not even in reverse by desperately trying to avoid doing what they tell us.
We can be proud of the way we look. We can be interested in clothes and make-up and fancy hairstyles. We can experiment. We can look at what others do and then decide whether we want the same or the opposite or something else altogether! But we mustn’t look down on girls and womyn who look like „fashion slaves“ – that, too, is lookism and sexism. If we don’t want to be judged by our looks we shouldn’t judge others…
Instead, we take our first nearly-pink (it’s light purple) shirt out of a freebox. The first skirt we owned for years, too. For the first time since we got away from our „mother“ we look at our body and dare to find it beautiful. It is Home.
At first the idea that wearing „girly“ stuff would make us feel better about ourselves, about our body, about our gender-identity(ies) and more confident in our ability to deal with lookism and sexism seemed absurd to us. But not anymore. We don’t subject ourselves to the “rule of pink“, we allow ourselves to wear that, too, if and when and how we want it!
We share this body with many people, headmates, of different ages and genders. It’s an adventure, I can tell you! 😀 We always thought of the body as being definitely and typically female. But lately we realized that we present as androgynous or gender-neutral. We wear unisex, baggy and concealing clothing, we walk, talk and behave in a gender-neutral way as best as we can. That’s probably a good strategy for girls, boys, men, womyn, people without or with different genders and mostly asexual people all sharing one body in a sexist society. But we are thinking about change… We are getting to know ourselves and each other more and more – we are exploring the individualities of our inner people. We want to express our individualities, too. We no longer find stuff that all of us can live with, but that some of us – or even just one – really want(s) to have. We get books with pink covers from the library – along with science-fiction-comics and children’s audio books. We’re getting closer and closer to the moment where everyone of us can walk down the street in his_her_eyr own clothes, walking, talking, moving, looking, thinking and feeling like themselves, doing what they want!
– some girls and womyn of the multiple system Meeresbande
Wir kämpfen nicht für Nischen und Freiräume, sondern wir kämpfen gegen gesellschaftliche Normen, die uns in solche Zwingen.